Do you feel guilty towards parents?

Guilt is a feeling of self-blame. How can adult children blame themselves for having certain obligations to their family or for harbouring feelings of irritation which they’ve had for twenty- five years or more towards their parent? Feelings are neither good nor bad, they are facts. It is a fact that you feel A or [...]

Why old(er) people are not like children

It is often said that older people are like children. There is as much truth in that as there is in saying the moon is square. I think what is really meant, is that older people sometimes react in ways that seem irrational — and this is equated with the reactions of children. It is [...]

Why Girls Love Guys, Five Reasons to go

Because they put up with us. Face it: What seems like perfectly normal behavior to us is bona fide alien-nation stuff to them. And yet, often, with great grace and good humor, men do their level best to accommodate the needs of these strange female creatures. One woman recalls how a guy she befriended in [...]

Your ex is getting married. How do you feel?

There you are, happy with your life, dating a lot, feeling thin, and then word comes down the grapevine: Your ex is getting married. How do you feel? It depends. If you’re still attached to him, it can be a pretty devastating little piece of news. “I found out through friends that he had gotten [...]

Breaking Down the Breakdowns

Like a complex machine with a lot of moving parts, communication can break down for many reasons. Each of these reasons has a remedy, but you have to know enough about the machine and its parts to spot the problem and get some glimmer of an idea how to fix it.

Being damped, what did I do to deserve this?

Well, there was that fat girl you made fun of in the third grade. And then there was the little incident when you stole a lipstick from Woolworth’s. Not to mention all those impure thoughts and the time you ate a doughnut at Passover. Strike that (the old wives possessed our brains for one second [...]

Are sure you want him out of your life forever? Body of Evidence

A surprising number of retribution-seekers called upon natural resources in order to gain satisfaction. It’s ingenious, sure, but even more, it’s disgusting, so we’ll try to run through this quickly.

Stop Asking for Permission or Agreement

Sometimes it’s tempting to soften your desires by asking your husband for something instead of just saying you want it. This may sound odd, but I notice women express themselves in questions all the time. I did it not long ago when a friend was over.

When you need your husband’s attention, Tell Him you miss Him

In the old days I used to tell my husband to stop watching so much TV. I would implore him to cut his late hours at work. I told him I needed help with the yard. Of course what I really wanted was for him to pay more attention to me. Needless to say at [...]

Who’s Your Buddy?

Always use the buddy system when you’re out on the town